We all want to see our lives and businesses grow to the next level and the next level beyond that. We want more for ourselves than we have now, we want to constantly be growing, both as a person and financially.
The two do go hand in hand because as we take the time to grow as a person it will naturally flow into the business areas of life, not to mention any other area that we desire change and growth.
Have you ever gone through the process of developing a plan of action for yourself only to find that you are unable to make the changes that you really want to make? First you decided the goal, the end result that you desired and then you mapped out the steps to get there.
Yet for some reason you don’t make it happen, despite your very attractive plan of action that you were so excited about.
- It wasn’t because you didn’t want the goal bad enough.
- It wasn’t because there was something wrong with your plan.
- It wasn’t because you didn’t try hard enough.
- It wasn’t because you didn’t believe in yourself.
Let’s say that your goal was to cut out some time wasting activities out of your schedule so that you would have fifteen extra hours in your week to use productively. You made a list of the activities that you plan to cut out and a separate list of the productive activities that you plan to do in their place.
You’re set for success, right?
You start out excited and with great intentions but when it comes time to actually make the changes it turns out not to be so easy. If one of the activities that you’ve decided to cut out is checking your email so often, what happens when you are accustomed to checking your email first in the day?
You can either make those phone calls that you were going to make…or you could sit down and check your email. Just this one last time, you can cut out the morning email checks tomorrow instead of today.
Checking the email sounds so much better, so much more comfortable, and besides you could have something really important waiting for you in that inbox.
Ever been there? Sure, we all have. It’s so much easier to stick with the routines that we are comfortable with than it is to change those routines.
That, my friend, is the exact reason that we cannot achieve the success that we desire.
Change is difficult for many reasons, one reason being that often unless we are forced into change we are much happier where we are unless change would be less painful than not changing.
Not changing is comfortable even if we think we aren’t happy with our situation. It brings about excuses and can even help us to see the positive in the situations that we say we are so unhappy about.
The one big reason that change is so difficult is that we have a habit to break and a new one to instate before the real change can happen.
Habits are very powerful and for that reason are very difficult to break, clearly the longer we have had a habit the more difficult it will be to break. What exactly is a habit? A habit is an activity that we engage in which we do without effort, sometimes without thinking about. It’s engrained into our behavior.
We can easily relate a habit to a physical addiction when trying to break a habit. It can be just as difficult, just ask someone who really wants to lose weight but has poor eating habits and doesn’t exercise.
Our use of the internet becomes a habit, try walking away from your computer for a few days and see how that goes. It could even cause you some anxiety! You will feel the pull to turn it on check your email, check your favorite sites, etc.
I can attest to this first hand because near the beginning of the Summer my computer had major issues and I wasn’t able to use it for a long time, even to this day my use of it is very limited. In the beginning it was very difficult for me to not have the use of my computer, especially with certain online activities bringing income.
After about a month (the time that it is said it takes to build a new habit) I found that I was enjoying my time away from the computer. Once I was able to get online regularly again I found myself less interested in many online activities and even with the opportunity to spend more time online I found myself not taking advantage of it. I was finding ways to spend as little time on the computer as possible. On purpose.
In this case I was forced into breaking one habit and creating a new one. Don’t wait until you are forced into creating new habits.
Creating Real Change
In order to create real change we must first become aware of the fact that we need to break an old habit in order to create a newer, more productive one. Awareness will give us more fortitude when it comes to the initial resistance to breaking the habit. We know why the resistance is there thus empowering us to make the needed changes.
Having some sort of written plan or calendar to get through the month of breaking and making habits can really make a difference. It is encouraging to see the progress on paper and it feels great to have something to check off! If you are looking for something quick and simple to print out I have a free download that you are welcome to use, you can find it in the freebies section here .
Visual Reminder of the Goal
You don’t need to spend hours creating a vision board, you can easily use something simple. For example, if you want to lose weight you can bring out your skinny clothes and look at those daily. You may need to get creative but having a visual can be a strong motivator!