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Life is about people. People we live with and people we work with. People we argue with and people we celebrate with. People who make us laugh and people who make us cry. People who help us succeed and people who help us fail.
Yes, indeed, life is about people. Isn’t that good enough reason to surround yourself with only the most awesome ones? The ones that stimulate you, support you, make you burst out laughing, and light a warm fire in your heart?
I think it is. Here are 10 ways to catch these awesome people and keep them in your life - for good:
1. Know what makes someone awesome to you.
There’s no absolute definition of awesome. Awesome is what you think it is. In fact, even your own definition may well vary according to context!
You’re probably looking for a different kind of awesome when you’re trying to find a new employee than when you’re searching for a spouse. A different sort when it comes to friends than when you choose your business partner.
Think about what species of awesome you need right now. And that’s where you begin.
2. Go where the awesome go.
Think about where the people you’re looking for spend their time. Then go there. Join in. You get nice chances to initiate and build effective relationships at those places.
3. Do as the awesome do.
Humans are like magnets, just the other way around. While the north pole of a magnet is attracted to the south pole of another magnet, we are automatically drawn to people who are similar to us. Make sure you follow your own definition of awesomeness, and other awesome people will join you faster than you can say “ferrimagnetism“.
4. Show passion.
Do what you love, love what you do, say what you believe, and believe what you say. Awesome people can’t resist passion. Live by an example and you will be one of your kind.
5. Believe in them.
Remember how your mom told you that you can do it? How she told you that she believed in you no matter what everyone else was saying?
We still need that. Every one of us; and awesome people most of all. Demonstrate a belief in others, and help them to overcome their fears. Very few people do this, which is why it’s a great way to make yourself indispensable.
6. Make it personal.
Don’t pretend. Care about them as human beings. Deeply. Truly. Not for the sake of building relationships or knowing a bunch of friends. But truly.
7. Listen.
Another rare quality that goes well with techniques five and six. There are not much listeners around. And, effective listening forms an important part of a good and successful relationship.
8. Accept their help.
Awesome people like to help, and they are great at it. Don’t be too shy to accept their support when it’s offered. See it as a gift that deepens your connection, and make sure they see the smile on your face when you rip off the wrapping paper.
9. Show appreciation.
Not just for their help, but for them. For their awesomeness. For their passion. For them being part of your life.
10. Let them be awesome.
This is the most important point of all. When you find awesome people, never hamper their awesomeness. Instead, fuel it. Make it bigger. Let them be awesome.
Your turn
What’s missing in the list? What other ways do you know to catch and keep awesome people? Please help by sharing your ideas in the comments!
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Thanks for this insightful post, Lucas.
One thing I want to add:
We should be interested in people in general and be open towards other people. Quite often, someone may not seem so awesome first, but then later you discover he or she is really a good person.
Thanks Christian - good suggestion, you are absolutely right.
But I think we shouldn’t stick around for too long and wait for the awesomeness to happen.
hey lucas,
wow, a great idea. you are right, we need awesome people arround us. and we can´t find them if we stay at home, refuse to go out or with being afraid of talking to strangers. a stranger is a friend we just don´t know yet.
tonight i will make notes: which kind of person do i need and miss in my life? how might this one be? where would they go? and tomorrow i will try to open my eyes a little more fore my environment…
but one question: what about the other way around? there are people in everybodys life who aren´t awesome… who are kind of in the way… how can we get a distance from people who are energy-eaters?
greetings from paris,
selene
Hi Selene,
Thanks for your comment. I think the best way to avoid people to “eat our energy” is to just avoid them. Don’t get down into a fight with them. It will just take even more energy and help noone.
Changing habits is often a good way to achieve distance, and being harder to reach. Limit social media times, switch your mobile phone off while you work etc. (these are things I recommend anyway to improve productivity)
I completely agree with Lucas. It works great if you just make yourself hard to access or even inaccessible to those people. This method has worked for me, I have done this to many people. Not that I am a badie, but they took a lot of time and energy from me
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When it comes to awesome people, are you referring to millionaires and even celebrities? Yes! that’s a great one! Being a good listener and followers as well are things to be prioritized. Like in media, Reporters are hardly desperate to get news and searches, and at the same time they give passion to what they are doing.
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Keeping awesome people around you is a great way of ensuring that you are influenced positively and that you also become awesome yourself. Once you get to meet an awesome person it is good to maintain good relationship with them and see how much they impact your life in a positive way.
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