Ever wonder what exactly it is that draws women to men? Maybe it is the eloquent way they never return our calls or that certain Je ne sais quoi of Brut, brash and totally cocky.
Whether you have met him on a dating site or at your local coffee shop, he draws women to him like bees to honey. A lot of women like assertive and confident men who unfortunately carry an extra dose of arrogance and dishonesty.
These types of men make women feel like they are in control. It is as if a little bit of his confidence rubs off on her and she feels empowered by it. These are usually women who have a low sense of self-worth.
Bad boy dating profiles usually read like a perfect advertisement with varying hot photos of them sitting on their motorcycles or washing their expensive cars with their shirt off. You know the ones I am referring to. Their pecks are about as inflated as their egos and their bios read like ironman tournament entries.
Most women like an air of mystery with a strong scent of naughtiness mixed in for good measure. Men who are rough around the edges bring out a sort of sexual curiosity in women.
We are intrigued by their subtle manipulation and some women get off on the thrill of trying to tame these men. They want to be the next in line for a rough ride that only he can give. They need a quick fix to fuel their emotional engine and a couple of crude comments to ignite a spark under their hood.
Some like the ultimate challenge of the journey and the buzz it gives them, but once this bad boy buzz has worn off all their left with is emotional unrest, another reason to be unhappy and a lingering headache. This type of rough persona that women seem to choose can be cyclic as well. Over and over again the pattern repeats itself.
Certain women have a passion for choosing men who will only make them cry like a baby and drive them to eat a whole quart of Ben and Jerrys ice cream in one sitting. Women can break the cycle by avoiding men whose only purpose in life is to break hearts and take advantage of womens good fortune.
Physical attraction is not everything
Women should avoid picking profile candidates based on physical attraction alone. This is especially true when trying to establish a solid relationship over the long haul.
A critical task in assisting women in their search for love should be gauging a mans interest. Women can do this by evaluating how long it takes for him to respond after trying to contact him.
Men can sometimes be hard to read, so you might need to test the waters a bit. Weed out the winners from the losers based on simple communication.
You cannot change them. Don’t waste your time and energy
Do not try and change an aggressive suitor into a mild-mannered and passive love match. Notice the major differences in age, interests and behavior in the beginning and not six months down the road.
Women can save themselves some heartache by not trying to change someone to suit their needs. If your lifestyle does not match his in any way, it is best to pass on any kind of relationship.
Men with flaws are dangerous
Do not pick a man with destructive life habits and personality flaws. Weed out poor love matches by choosing men who do not have chronic addictions or ones that have just come out of rehab.
Take a step back and see if you have a pattern of picking men who need saving.
Men with motivation will motivate you
Look for men who have an abundance of motivation and enjoy trying to maximize his true potential in life. He does not have to be a rocket scientist, but at the same time he should not be lazy and lack ambition when it comes to love or his job.
No to arrogance
Do not pick a man who is mean spirited and seems hard to please. It is a good thing for the ladies to remember that arrogance in a mild form can be attractive in a weird sort of way, but it is definitely not husband material.
You should be able to foresee future conflicts. Recognize the signs of resentment or jealousy when they present themselves and steer clear of men who act differently in front of his friends then he does with you.
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Thanks for the advice! I’ve not started looking at dating sites yet but I do worry that I’m going to end up 40 years old and alone and living with cats so dating sites is always a possibility to look at seeing as all men of my age I find to be really immature and annoying!
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Well Jane its all against us
but I think one can determine some thing by response time, don’t just for for physical appearance is also a point.
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Harriet,
Dating Sites can be great if you know exactly what your looking for in a mate and realize ahead of time what might be your relationship dealbreakers. Glad you enjoyed my article.
Thanks for the advices, I enjoyed them so much since I had already realized some of them myself. It is such a great thing “meeting” people who has similar thoughts as I have about men and relationships.
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I think every woman should take these advices into consideration before going for a hunt
Motivation is an important issue that you should try finding out about him, unless he is motivated or enthusiastic you get a boring life next to him full of dullness and you get unmotivated yourself too.
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I am a bit sceptical about making friends with men on dating sites. I don’t believe them. I think that real men will never look for women on dating sites unless they have some freaky wishes.
I prefer meeting men at the conferences or exhibitions, etc. They are serious but …. in most cases they are married
Anna’s comment is the first sensible thing I’ve read on this page.
This is a nice read!!That part about “Most women like an air of mystery with a strong scent of naughtiness mixed in for good measure” is so much true. Women always loves the air of mystery around them and also their arrogance adds the spice!!
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Wow..This could be very useful for my friend. She is interested on trying the date sites.. I think she need to read this first. Thanks for sharing this!
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I can certainly say from a man’s point of view, these are excellent suggestions. Too often, women online insist on tall, 6 foot statures, etc., alone and don’t even look beyond that. Of course, men are also guilty of passing quick judgement on just photos or weight too. But the point that really hit home here is that if lifestyles are not compatible, there will be little chance of success with a long term relationship. Don’t try to change us as the post suggested. It never works. It’s much better to save the agony and go for somebody you don’t have to change from the beginning.
Girls, just skip the dating sites. Really, if you can’t find a good man offline believe me the ones online are even worst. Go to a bar, there’s no way you won’t get hit on.
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As much as possible look for men that cannot be found on dating sites or chat room. Why? because most of them usually only wants to flirting but not in for commitment. This is based from my in-laws experience.
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Adam,
While this does seem to be very prevalent, there are just as many success stories as well where people have found love on the internet. It takes common sense and a good sense of self, but it can be done. Thanks for you comment-It’s always good to hear different views on the subject of “internet dating”.
In my experience, men tend to misrepresent themselves online by saying they make more money than they really do, they work extravagant jobs when they really do customer service, etc. The best way to find someone real is to speak to the point and be direct. There’s no shame in asking direct questions, and most men seem to be pleasantly surprised by a woman who isn’t playing games, but rather skipping all of the BS from the beginning.
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I am not a women but i think that i can understand all those things . Women have to keep her in th arms of a cool and loving ,handsome person .
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It is true men more so then women tend to lie or exaggerate the truth about themselves on there profiles. It is bad they do this as the truth comes out sooner or later and these men wonder why they cant have a good relationship.
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